Here are some icebreaker ideas that are in line with Finkel’s theories:
Toss Out the Negative – Keep the Positive(an opening or closing)Supplies needed: 3 slips of paper and pencil/pen for each participant
Process Description: This idea will adapt to any subject in which your participants can identify positive and negative traits/behaviors.
· Ask each participant to place three small pieces of paper in front of them on the table. Number the papers from 1 to 3.
· Have participants write one negative trait/behavior (name topic or activity) on paper #1.
· On paper #2, have participants write a positive trait/behavior.
· On paper #3, have participants write down another negative trait/behavior.
· After participants are finished, have them line papers up on table in any order, but all the papers must be in a horizontal row. The order of the papers is up to the individual. Mention to participants that there is no way for you to know in what order they might have placed their papers.
Now, give the group the following instructions: Now we are going to mix up your papers as I give you some brief instructions. All I ask is that you follow my instructions carefully, one step at a time.
1. Exchange the paper on which you wrote #1 with the paper on its immediate RIGHT. If there is no paper to the immediate right, leave the #1 paper alone.
2. Exchange the paper on which you wrote #2 with the paper on its immediate LEFT. If there is no paper on the immediate left, leave the #2 paper alone.
3. Exchange the paper on which you wrote #3 with the paper on its immediate RIGHT. If there is no paper on the immediate right, leave the #3 paper alone. You have now mixed up your papers!
4. Wave your hand over all the papers and come down on the paper in the MIDDLE of the row. Grab it, ball it up and throw it away! This is a trait/behavior we are trying to eliminate.
5. Only two papers remain. Wave your hand over both papers and come down on the paper on the RIGHT. Grab it, ball it up and throw it away! This is another trait/behavior we are trying to eliminate.
6. Congratulations! You have eliminated two negative traits/behaviors and kept an important, positive trait/behavior.
7. Ask if participants will share the positive trait/behavior they identified. These could all be recorded on flip chart for all participants to see and read.
2. Exchange the paper on which you wrote #2 with the paper on its immediate LEFT. If there is no paper on the immediate left, leave the #2 paper alone.
3. Exchange the paper on which you wrote #3 with the paper on its immediate RIGHT. If there is no paper on the immediate right, leave the #3 paper alone. You have now mixed up your papers!
4. Wave your hand over all the papers and come down on the paper in the MIDDLE of the row. Grab it, ball it up and throw it away! This is a trait/behavior we are trying to eliminate.
5. Only two papers remain. Wave your hand over both papers and come down on the paper on the RIGHT. Grab it, ball it up and throw it away! This is another trait/behavior we are trying to eliminate.
6. Congratulations! You have eliminated two negative traits/behaviors and kept an important, positive trait/behavior.
7. Ask if participants will share the positive trait/behavior they identified. These could all be recorded on flip chart for all participants to see and read.
Discuss the results in a group setting.
: Creative Training Techniques – A Newsletter of Tips, Tactics and How-To’s for Delivering Effective Training, October 1998, Volume 11, Number 10, page 6.
How this can be used with Parent and Family educational programs:-
This activity can be used for a clear comparison of positive and negative behaviors related to any topic. Identify the subject matter for presentation and then have participants consider positive/ negative traits and behaviors related to topic.
Process Description: Give people in the group a game implement (either game pieces, puzzle, or kush ball- not all of these). Stand up to play the game.
Say: I have two balls. We are going to play ball. I will tell you when to begin. All I am going to say is that I want you to play ball. I am not going to give you the rules of the game. However, I do have some rules that I want you to follow. When you break one of my rules, I am going to blow this whistle and I may even scold you for not following one my rules. Ok. Start playing ball.
Have a goal in mind for the game (ball should be handed from one person to the next or rolled or tossed). Blow whistle when players break the rules to the game. After a few minutes tell them to stop the game. Ask questions: How did you feel about playing this game? Was it easy to play? Why or why not? Were you able to figure out the rules? How would you feel if I had stopped the game along the way to give you instructions? Why is it important for your children to know the rules you want them to follow? What would make it hard for children to follow the rules you set? What have you learned about playing a game without knowing the tiles that you can apply to disciplining your children?
How this can be used with Parent and Family educational programs:
Motivating With A Potato?
Supplies needed: Sturdy straws
Process Description: This activity is good to use with a training program dealing with the topic of motivation/relationships/leadership.
1. Ask for 2-3 volunteers.
2. Talk about that in order to be a good leader you must “lead by example”.
3. So, to demonstrate this we are going to use these potatoes and straws.
4. Tell the volunteers that they must do exactly as you do.
5. Now, ask the group if they think you can puncture your potato all the way through with the straw – are there any doubters? (You should get some head nods).
Ask the volunteers if they believe you can do it.
6. Next, ask everyone “if I told you I have done this before do you think I can do it?” (you might get some head nods but the majority of them should doubt you). Ask them why they still doubt you (answer: should be because we didn’t SEE you do it yet, it’s just heresay.
7. Now, ask them to motivate you (yelling, clapping, etc.) – now stab the potato with the straw all the way through. Now that you have been successful ask the volunteers if they believe they can do it since they have now seen you be successful. Ask group same question. Should begin to have more believers than doubters at this time.|
8. Now have volunteers stab potato. Have group yell and clap for them. When they have been successful ask the group if they think they could do it now.
9. If one of the volunteers in not successful have them try again and state that we always “dust ourselves off and try again” if we wish to be successful at anything.
10. NOTE: In order for this to work you must have a sturdy straw and you must hold your thumb over the top of the straw to create air pressure. Also, don’t be timid, you must use a lot of force. Practice at home until you feel confident. With my experience, most people can do it within the first three tries. Have plenty of straws in case some break. The potatoes are NOT cooked.
How this can be used with Parent and Family educational programs: This activity is good to use with a training program dealing with the topic of motivation/relationships/leadership.
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Supplies needed: Sturdy straws
Process Description: This activity is good to use with a training program dealing with the topic of motivation/relationships/leadership.
1. Ask for 2-3 volunteers.
2. Talk about that in order to be a good leader you must “lead by example”.
3. So, to demonstrate this we are going to use these potatoes and straws.
4. Tell the volunteers that they must do exactly as you do.
5. Now, ask the group if they think you can puncture your potato all the way through with the straw – are there any doubters? (You should get some head nods).
Ask the volunteers if they believe you can do it.
6. Next, ask everyone “if I told you I have done this before do you think I can do it?” (you might get some head nods but the majority of them should doubt you). Ask them why they still doubt you (answer: should be because we didn’t SEE you do it yet, it’s just heresay.
7. Now, ask them to motivate you (yelling, clapping, etc.) – now stab the potato with the straw all the way through. Now that you have been successful ask the volunteers if they believe they can do it since they have now seen you be successful. Ask group same question. Should begin to have more believers than doubters at this time.|
8. Now have volunteers stab potato. Have group yell and clap for them. When they have been successful ask the group if they think they could do it now.
9. If one of the volunteers in not successful have them try again and state that we always “dust ourselves off and try again” if we wish to be successful at anything.
10. NOTE: In order for this to work you must have a sturdy straw and you must hold your thumb over the top of the straw to create air pressure. Also, don’t be timid, you must use a lot of force. Practice at home until you feel confident. With my experience, most people can do it within the first three tries. Have plenty of straws in case some break. The potatoes are NOT cooked.
How this can be used with Parent and Family educational programs: This activity is good to use with a training program dealing with the topic of motivation/relationships/leadership.
IDEAS FROM:
Contact name, county and email address:
Matt Devereaux, Ph.D.
University of Tennessee mdevereaux@utk.edu
Matt Devereaux, Ph.D.
University of Tennessee mdevereaux@utk.edu

